Venting is important, otherwise that shit festers inside you.Going through all of this now with my MIL, she has always been a Narcissistic Sycophant, a controlling manipulator! Her only saving grace was that she was a loving and wonderful grandmother to my son, his only blood grandparent since both of my parents were deceased when he was born.
Her ins won't cover a hospice facility, they are kicking her out after a three day stay so my wife and her also Narcissistic, "apple doesn't fall far from the tree" sister will be alternating nights at their mothers apartment. I have tolerated my wife's mother all these years only because my son loves his grandmother and vice a versa and just to keep some family harmony. I feel sorry for my wife and son's soon to be loss but I have mixed feelings about it all, cruel people and I don't get along well, I cut them no quarter but yet I can't let this situation turn me into that person!
I too have kept my thoughts brief here, I could go on and on but it really doesn't matter now and words can be painful so why cause any more of it?
Creates a new illness for you to have to deal with, I strongly suspect.
Very normal for each of us to become more control freakish as we get nearer to our end, in old age/infirmity.
Attempting to manipulate/control our environment as we lose the ability to take care of ourselves.
Even worse when infirmed due to breathing issues like COPD.
The same if the person was manipulative all their life.
It gets turned up to eleven...
...they can't even control their breath or have spent their lives believing they had control over more than their own personal choices.
Slow death is a cruel fuck but, we're all on that path.
Best to get right in our own heads for everyone we loves sake...
...I'll let you all know when I get that figured out.